Skill of Listening

Through evolution women are more developed than men at listening. There are many social theories and ideas as to why, but the fact has remained consistent through history. Because of this, men need to work a little harder on this skill. Here are valuable instructions to help everyone practice their skill of listening:

· Focus on the other person and give your full attention. Guys, this means not having the game on as she talks while you nod and say uh-huh.
· We all have a tendency to starting thinking about our response before the other person is finished, so save the comments in your head until it’s your turn.
· Listen with an open mind. This means being aware of any preconceived notions or prejudices about the topic. Whether your belief is valid or not, this will obscure the message.
· Remember 75% of communication is about body language. If only you work on one aspect of body language, think eye contact. This ensures the person talking knows your listening. (Just be aware this is good advice in the US and not every country or culture).
· Be polite! Since common courtesy isn’t so common anymore, it had to be said. Be patient and don’t talk over another person. Avoid ugly behavior like an uncaring sigh or rolling your eyes.
· If you don’t have enough time to listen, nicely ask the other person if you can talk later. Let the other person know why you can’t talk so you don’t hurt any feelings.

You will see huge benefits to your marriage when communication improves. We’re not looking for a miracle, just practice your skill of happiness and it will become habit. Apply your skill of listening at work, with friends, with your children and you’ll have greater opportunities in life.